Throughout our lives, we crave long-term bonds and we never give up on finding those connections. Ever wonder why we connect positively to come people and not so much to others or why some relationships bring out the best in us and other bring out the worst? I know I have.
ATTACHED: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love (Tarcher/ Penquin paperback, 2011) by psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine, M.D., & social-organizational psychologist Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. answers these questions and more. Here is the synopsis from the back cover of the book:
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."
In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment--the most advanced relationship science in existence today--can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950's, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
ANXIOUS people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back.
AVOIDANT people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly to try to minimize closeness
SECURE people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
I found Attached to be quite informative. It was interesting to not only discover my personal attachment style but also my husband's and how our style differences can cause issues within the relationship. It brought some understanding to some of the reoccurring conflicts we continue to have after almost 14 years of marriage. I think this book would be very beneficial to those in the dating scene or those who are in long-term relationships/marriage but want a better of why you and your partner butt heads in certain areas. Maybe the understanding your and your significant other's relationship styles could make for a happier and more understanding long lasting relationship.
Combining facts and clear analysis along with personal stories, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love, is the perfect book for anyone who wishes to discover the "why" behind their actions and relationships!
Thank you to Media Muscle for my sample used in this review, opinions are honest. Review by Michelle.
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